July 16, 2004 08:29am
Ask a Swinger - Food for Thought
Source: Adult Industry News
by: Julie Wild
I am having a great summer and hope you are too. I had a huge party for the 4th of July and everyone is still recovering. I received letters this week from readers on topics that I have personally experienced, lets just say there is something for everybody.
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My name is Mike and my wife and I have a pretty wild sex life. We are active in the alternative lifestyle, love going to strip clubs together and have no limits with sex between the two of us.
We found on the internet, an article on sploshing. We were both curious. Have you ever experience sploshing and is as erotic as it looks. We were thinking about having a sploshing party, how would we go about this.
Mike Atlanta GA.
Wow! What a hot topic. For those of you who are not familiar with sploshing, it is covering yourself and your partner in gooey, slimy food. It is similar to mud or Jell-O wresting. It can lead to some very hot set.
I have had a small splosh party at my home. I covered the deck area by the pool with plastic. We started out innocently with whipped cream and added cherries, chocolate syrup and yogurt. Soon the girls were covered from head to toe and the guys had a great time helping us lick it off.
Keep in mind, not to insert food products into your body cavities. This can cause a health danger. Many people let their imagination run wild with food selections.
I have heard people using cakes, pies, jelly, chocolate pudding, syrup and whipped cream. I guess anything gooey and tasty works well.
I thought I was happily married for the past 12 years. Last night I heard my husband talking on the phone around 1 am. I did not know who he was talking to at that hour, so I picked up the extension phone to find he was having paid phone sex.
I was outraged and devastated. I quietly hung up the phone and cried myself to sleep. Now I don't know what to do? My husband and I even had great sex this morning before he left for work. He seems very happy with me. Help!
Carrie Knoxville TN.
I definitely think you should talk to your husband. Phone sex is not necessarily a bad thing. It can actually spice up your sex life. Like all things, in moderation, (alcohol, gambling, video games) it is entertainment, in excess, it is an addiction. Just because he called a phone sex operator, does not mean you are having marital problems or that you are not satisfying him. I do think he should have told you what he was going to do, just like if he stopped after work for a drink or visited a casino.
Ask him to be honest with you as to what he was looking for in the phone sex. If he had a specific fantasy, maybe you can accomplish it together.
We are a happily married couple and recently put a personal ad on a swingers site. We are receiving a large quantity of e mail, but no serious responses, most people looking to trade pictures. Any advice?
Tammy and Steve Tampa FL.
Dear Tammy and Steve,
My advice to couples looking to advertise is the same as my advice to singles looking to find a spouse. Don't use all the space describing yourself. Instead, be very clear as to what you are looking for. I see ads all the time that describe the couple and then say, looking for a single guy to join them. Then they complain that the right single guy never came along. Try detailing exactly what you are looking for, if the right person sees your ad, they will take the time to contact you to find out more about the two of you.
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